Divorce widespread: Need Men's Ministry?

Disclosure by the Deputy Director (Policy) Jakim, Othman Mustapha based on studies made in 2008, a period of ten years of marriage is critical because divorce is a huge potential.

In a study in 2007 found that 32.2 percent Jakim marriage for the first five years experienced a divorce. Six to ten years found that 27.7 per cent divorced. This means that within the first ten years are the most critical year for 59.9 percent of the couple ended in divorce.

From a total of 135.136 registered marriages in 2009, while the divorce case 27.116 was recorded in the year.

MINISTRY OF MEN

We are familiar with the existence of the ministry of women in our country Malaysia. Spontaneous us to understand the role of the ministry concerned is to safeguard the welfare of women from all serbinya for not abused, oppressed, omissions and such. But look at the current situation in Malaysia, maybe it is time we think of a special body to help men who have seen their capacity fading.

God created the pairing of the world can work together for their mutual prosperity of the world according to their nature, the nature of pastinnya bring peace, harmony and dynamism. However, the number of women who meet more institutes of higher learning and mastering increasingly setersunay positions in the field of employment. Education on the eroded household, one source is the increasing number of women needed to get out beekrja seeangkan men failed to help accommodate the children's education.

In simply words, the world of work is needed to help women keep moving. But the world of men's household needs help to keep harmony. When women appear able to accommodate the needs of the working world, of course, the ability to manage the contents of the household decreases, while the role of men is needed, but a little unfortunate when men continue to be neglected. In the shrinking world of their careers, at home they often fail to accommodate the space left by her work. The result is imminent upheaval, cluttered home, the child would get so negative and substantial impact in their lives into adulthood. Even worse, if the impact is damaging to the child's soul and a bully at school, a virologist at the university, the community and the creators waste problem in the country.

Allah says:

الرجال قوامون على النساء بما فضل الله بعضهم على بعض وبما أنفقوا من أموالهم

Meaning: The man is the head of the women caused as a gift given to them and because they provide nafqah .. (Al-Nisa: 43)

It is clear from the above verse, God appointed man as the head and casting decisions in a household based on two main reasons that a) their physical advantage, and b) their responsibilities as nafqah search for family.

Undoubtedly, if the two are not executed properly, the problem would be pistillate one by one, the grievance will be appearing day after day, life will be changed to a thousand kinds of issues, ended in divorce and troubled children.

These children will bring problems to school and university, as the mother and their father takes matters into the workplace. Finally, the negative aura they move from one to another, and influence the next group of society and State. It is a domino effect of the chain.

Because the harmony of the family is very important in Islam, and he says the crisis in the family is religious penghakis. It is the cause of the larger problem in society.

The Prophet informed urgent need to reconcile and resolve problems within the family but it is more meaningful than sedeqah, fasting and prayers (Sunnah).

The Prophet said: -

ألا أخبركم بأفضل من درجة الصيام والصدقة والصلاة "أي درجة الصيام النافلة وصدقة نافلة والصلاة النافلة", فقال أبو الدرداء: قلنا بلى يا رسول الله, قال: إصلاح ذات البين [1]

Meaning: O my friend, "Shall I tell you one more practice than the fast fadhilatnya (circumcision), sedeqah (circumcision) and prayers (Sunnah), then Abu Darda 'said: O Messenger of Allah. The Prophet replied: "That is to reconcile the conflict in the family and society" (Narrated by Abu Dawood Al-Tirmidhi: hasan Hadith class and sohih by Albanian)

And he added later, says: -

وفساد ذات البين الحالقة

Meaning: Keroasakan in household relations, kinship and community organizations will be eroded (in religious observance) (Reported by Ahmad and Tirmidhi: Al-Hasan)

'LL DIVORCE EASY

When women are working and earning their own, they no longer have the problem to a divorce, the result is based on the study Dr. Zaleha Kamaruddin, the trend of divorce for the period 1998-2002 shows that almost 70 percent of divorce cases in Kelantan, Johor and Terengganu requested by the woman (wife). In some other states also saw more than 50 percent of women as plaintiffs in the case of divorce. (REFER)

Allah knows women and their emotions, it is a matter of nature, and thus the power of divorce granted to husband. But his wife still has the power to apply through the courts, when they actually have a case and for the whole of the Shari'ah. Facts on the support, it also shows the failure of the men at the same time.

This paper is not to blame anyone, but invites us to think for a moment the weakness of men in the role given by God, that sebegai head of the family. It is the duty and the trust that comes with the responsibilities and roles.

The responsibility of it, requires sufficient knowledge and credibility to act as a casting decision in ruamhtangga. The decision was made to be quite rational and acceptable to the people of the house, especially his wife. As the nature of a judge in court, other than the judge, counsel and the prosecuting attorney, an expert in the field of law, but it requires a casting decision. That's the best way to teach people of God, they need a leader who is not easily influenced by emotions, but rather to focus on rational decision-making. Based on Surah al-Nisa verses earlier, God appointed man and Allah knows all the advantages and disadvantages of being created.

Today, with the adequacy of existing physical plant and the men who abuse the increasing number of physical facilities provided. Used to be hardcore criminals, physical force was used to fix and fight, 'a strong show. " Partly used for torturing children and wives and other women. Logical and less emotional mind God gave roughly used to justify the negligence, failure to entertain themselves when afflicted, but no adequate efforts undertaken.

Finally, more and more men who fail to undertake the task head of a family. Encouraged him to continue to urge her to take over some duties. And going home to 'house My Fire'.

Perhaps the reason is, we now need a Ministry of Men in our country?

We know, habits are not like men unless they are advised to beg, do not like women who are more receptive to advice. Hence, this is where the ministry is established, it can change the bad situation that happens?.

Immediately hailed as the ACTION PLAN OR ..

Regardless, leaders and all the authorities need clear rules and strategies on how to return to empower men, not to busy selling 'strong medicine' and 'tough', but to strengthen faith, science, soul, mind can play them for better returns, without plan of action is clear and precise, even worse crises will occur in our country.

Of course, the first empowerment is to restore them to their nature, lead men to religion, because all it would affect his wife and their children.